R.I.P. My Old Friend

Header image: David Deyo at Prospect Congregational United Church of Christ on August 5, 2018.

“May the gifts of love, joy, peace and enlightenment come to you all.”

David Deyo

Today, I found out that an old friend had passed away at the very young age of 56 from an undisclosed condition. His name was David Dean Deyo. We did not end on good terms at all.

A health prevention piece I created for men’s STD reduction several years ago actually features the two of us when things were on much better ground, and it still lives on my website.

David Deyo, looking better than I had seen him in ages, in one of his spirituality-based video podcasts from his YouTube channel. Episode: “Whirlpools of Consciousness: The Subtle Energy of Being” (season 2, episode 14)

I even worked for him off and on on a freelance basis, and then as his employee for a tech start up. That was the beginning of the end. Ten years of friendship that was destroyed by his drug use and his attitude toward what we had as a team. It was heartbreaking to see him decline so rapidly.

One of the many projects I worked on for David in the ten years I knew him, this one for a local tech start up.

He became very ill earlier this decade, and I would even visit him in the hospital when no one else would come by, begging him to seek help, and hoping he would understand than even though shit between us was awful, I was still his friend.

The last time I saw him was in 2014 in Seattle. I finally decided that it wasn’t healthy for me to see him anymore. He had to want to deal with his own toxicity before I could help him with anything, and that was still some time away for him.

David and I were part of a very frank, no BS gay men’s health campaign that actually saw Portland as the only metro area at the time to see a drop in STIs.

The only solace is that, according to his obit, he got clean, he fell in love, got married and started creating again. The pic they used just floored me: he looked better than I remember seeing him last in 2014.

In between this time, unbeknownst to me, he suffered two strokes, but was still in good spirits and was planning for another season of his video work.

In spite of what went down, David, I am so very happy you found what you were finally looking for. I am just sorry you had to wait so long for it.

A link to his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/chronalhouse/featured

A link to his Facebook page featuring some of his work. https://www.facebook.com/temporalreverie/

A link to his Seattle Gay News obituary. http://www.sgn.org/sgnnews47_10/page5.cfm

Love to you all.

Ben “Bear” Brown Jr., owner
www.aospdx.com
https://aceofspadespdx.blubrry.net/

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